Hi all! Sorry I haven’t written in a while, midterms are right around the corner and so I have been preparing for that (more updates on school stuff to be coming up in a future post).
I wanted to start a series describing the types of people I have encountered thus far in medical school, so this post will be my first installment:
My school is all about group based learning, which may or may not be a good thing depending on how you study. We are broken off into groups of 8 and we are given assignments and cases each week to go over. Because it’s always alphabetical, I am pretty much stuck with the same core group of people. I do indeed like most of them, but there’s one person who I will keep genderless and nameless just in case they stumble upon this blog (hey there!), so let’s call them Alex… that’s pretty neutral right?
To keep a long story short, Alex loves to make to make people feel dumb. To be honest, I didn’t notice this defect in their personality until recently. He/she usually sat next to me in labs, and whenever someone offered to answer a question and ended up getting it wrong (which is TOTALLY okay in a group team based learning session… that’s kind of what they are there for) they would lean over to me and make really condescending remarks:
“wow how did she even get into medical school”
“this is such basic information”
“she is OBVIOUSLY wrong”
Get the gist? I’m sure just reading that may have made the hair stand on the back of your neck.
I don’t normally let those kinds of comments phase me, I just ignored it and did my best to help my classmate answer the actual question (if I could). I even went as far to think that we were friends until I got up to present histology slides and instead of leaning over to my chair, I saw them lean over in the other direction and start talking about me, and not in a positive tone. I got a question wrong, and after it was clarified and I re-explained the answer he/she literally clapped their hands and said “Don’t worry, medical school is tough. You’ll get the hang of things and figure it out soon”
Now I know it probably sounds different typed than it was actually in person, but it was one of the most inappropriate comments I have ever heard and the tone taken did not help the situation – he/she might as well have patted me on the head and told me to run along home.
To make a long story short, you an imagine the look on my face when I heard that Alex had failed every single one of their exams. I thought maybe they were sick, or something must have happened. It ended up being none of the excuses I was making for them, they just straight up failed because they didn’t know the material. But how was that possible? And then it clicked, Alex is what I like to call “the faker”. The following week after exams, I kept a close eye on Alex as if they were the subject of my personal experiment and the results were surprising. Alex was that type of student who points out the mistakes in others but never actually participates themselves. If by chance Alex was called on to answer a question, he/she did the clever loop around and was able to get our facilitator to lead them to the answer so that they can take credit for having come up with the original diagnosis. When I walked by their desk in the library, all of those “hours spent studying” ended up being them wasting time on buzzfeed or Facebook.
Alex was nothing but a faker – tricking the rest of us into thinking that they were smarter than the rest of us, and tricking themselves in the process. Since our first exams, I have since extended my hand on multiple occasions and offered to help them study over the weekend – I am human after all, I am competitive but I also don’t want others to fail. Alex has yet to take me up on my offer, and to be honest – they have to be humbled a little bit more before I believe they will.
I hope you guys liked these types of posts and I promise to start posting more often – just gotta get over the hump that is midterms coming up this week! Let me know if there are any aspects of school you guys want me to talk about, I’m pretty much an open book, no fakers here.